7 Ways to Know If You're Getting Good Loving ~
7 Ways to Know if You're Getting Good Love by Dr Anya M. Hall
Do you desire “good love?” Do you even know what “good love” is? I’m reminded of the song by the infamous Whitney Houston in which she declares “Baby, You Give Good Love!” The word LOVE as an adjective can mean pleasurable or desirable . However, I want to give you an ancient Hebrew definition which means – to function, that is, to fulfill purpose; to bring about the desired result.
First of all, "What is love?" and secondly, "What does good love do?"
I John 4:8 tells us that GOD is love.
John 3:16 says that God demonstrated His love through an act of sacrificial giving.
There are 7 things that “good love” does. You will know if you are getting GOOD love if you see these in your personal, ministry and business relationships. ===>You should also examine YOUR love to see if YOU are giving good love.
1. Love Commits - to carry into action deliberately; to obligate oneself to;
"Good Love" commits and is committed. When someone gives good love they intentionally obligate themselves even though it opens them up to the risk of loss, injury or hurt of some kind. They demonstrate their love on a consistent basis . . . even when they may not want to or feel like it, their love speaks volumes through their choice to commit.
Romans 5:8 KJV “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
2. Love Contributes – to give, supply and play a significant part in bringing about an end result.
"Good Love" is generous and self-less. While exercising wisdom and balance, good love is willing to give and sacrifice of everything in order to meet the need of those they love.
I John 4:10 BBE “And this is love, not that we had love for God, but that he had love for us, and sent his Son to be an offering for our sins.”
3. Love Covers – to guard from attack; to make provision for; to spread over; to overlook and forgive.
"Good Love" protects the integrity, reputation, person, business, family, finances and overall well being of those they love. Good love would never throw them under the bus or feed them to the wolves.
I Peter 4:8 ESV “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
4. Love Confronts – to challenge and question the action or authority of another in an honest and direct way.
"Good Love" speaks the truth and is kind. While confrontation is not always "nice," if the person truly loves and cares for you it is a kindness that they do so in order to prevent present or future danger, destruction, derailment or other error that may prove to be detrimental or catastrophic.
John 14:21a “Those who really love me are the ones who not only know my commands but also obey them.” John 14:24a “But anyone who does not love me does not obey my teaching.”
5. Love Corrects – to set right, discipline and lead straight; action taken to remove error, fault and wrong
"Good Love" only wants the very best for you and will endeavor to help get you on the right track through providing the knowledge and training required or referring you to those that can provide it.
Hebrews 12:6 CEV “The Lord corrects the people he loves and disciplines those he calls his own."
6. Love Constructs – to form by combining and arranging parts and elements.
"Good Love" takes what is available to build the best life, family, business and / or ministry possible and adds to it whenever able because all it wants, more than anything is to please you and make you happy.
John 17:23 BBE “I in them, and you in me, so that they may be made completely one, and so that it may become clear to all men that you have sent me and that they are loved by you as I am loved by you.”
7. Love Catapults – to launch something in a specific direction with such force that it travels a great distance
"Good Love" never holds or keeps you back from your dream or life's goal but rather will help to find ways to accomplish it while keeping the relationship, family, business and everything else, including themselves, healthy and wholesome so that all may joy and benefit from the accomplishment.
Jeremiah 29:11 ERV “I say this because I know the plans that I have for you." This message is from the LORD. "I have good plans for you. I don't plan to hurt you. I plan to give you hope and a good future.”
Here are a few more things that Good Love Does:
=======>Love Cares, Love Comforts, Love Carries
"Good Love" provides what is necessary for the health, welfare, maintenance and protection of those that they love.
"Good Love" gives strength and hope to those they love, encouraging them in order to ease distress, difficulty and pain.
"Good Love" supports and holds those who are loved while moving through life from one goal or place to another.
Most of us are guilty of not giving "Good Loving" at some point in our lives and yet, we are ALL desirable of receiving it.
One good thing to know is that it is indeed possible to GROW IN LOVE and learn how to give "Good Love."
After reading and understanding what "Good Love" is, perhaps you can truly say: "What the World Needs Now is Love!"